Nowadays a lot of parents are looking for bullies, but, unfortunately, sometimes they took the wrong direction. What if a bully is actually the one you are making a sandwich for every morning?
Here are 7 signs that can help you to pay attention to your child`s behavior and recognize a bully in time.
1) Your Child Has Trouble Sleeping
A recent study of 341 children conducted by the University of Michigan found that children with sleep problems related to sleep-disordered breathing were more likely to display bullying tendencies or have other conduct problems than children without the sleep concerns.
2) Your Child Has Behavioral Issues
Being aggressive, impulsive, or easily frustrated are three common behaviors that could indicate that a child is a bully, according to D. Janell Dietz, EdD, an author on the subject of bullying and a former school counselor and teacher. “Kids who are bullying generally become easily frustrated if they don’t get their way, lack empathy for others, and have a history of discipline problems,” she says.
3) Your Child Is Getting Into Trouble at School
If your child starts having issues once he or she goes back to school, this is a telltale sign that something is not quite right with your child’s behavior, and bullying might be part of the problem. “If your child is getting into trouble at school for fighting, or acts dominant or aggressive with other kids, you may have a bully on your hands,” warns Dr. Dietz.
4) Your Child Is Obsessed With Popularity
Another warning sign of bullying is a child who is fixated on being popular — perhaps to the point of obsession. This behavior underlies a lot of insecurities, says Newman. The bullying may involve excluding children from groups or acting in a hostile way toward any child or group of children that is somehow different from them.
5) Your Child’s Friends Show Aggressive Tendencies
It may be difficult to pick up on some of these signs of bullying with your own child, but if his or her friends seem aggressive or mean-spirited, or if they exhibit some of the other signs of bullying, then your child might be involved in bullying as well.
6) There Is Violence at Home
According to a recent study by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the Massachusetts Department of Public Health, bullies or victims of bullying were much more likely to have experienced violence in the home.
7) You Don’t Have a Good Relationship With Your Child
Regardless of which signs of bullying your child is exhibiting, the bullying issues often come back to parenting. Bad parenting can lead to bullying and, in the long run, good parenting can solve many of these problems.